I understand. It’s hard to be with the indecision, uncertainty and fear which may come with not knowing where your career is headed. Believing you will ‘work out’ your career, like a challenge to overcome, is a seductive, although ultimately problematic stance to take. It means that you treat your life – and your self – like a problem which needs to be solved.
Just like life, your career unfolds as you grow- as you gain experience, exposure to new people, ideas, influences, expertise. It evolves as you do. Because of this, you can’t ‘work it out’. I know, I know. It’s not what many people want to hear. You can, however, pause information seeking long enough to acknowledge where you are, and consider where you want to be for the next moment, knowing that it might change.
You are an ever-changing gloriously evolving human being. Do you really want to believe that life, your career, could be different? Can you expect to know the ‘answer’ to your perfect career when you may not have yet become that person?
There are people who ‘know’ what career they want from an early age (it is possible they could be wrong, of course, and end up choosing again). These people who ‘know’ are a minority and most commonly get their ‘certainty’ from family conditioning and societal ideas about what is attractive, available or possible. The certainty itself doesn’t mean it is the right path for them, or that it has anything to do with who they are.
If we strip back all the career ‘shoulds’, ‘haves’ and ‘have nots’, we are left with the human beingness that lives each day regardless of what it ‘should’ or ‘shouldn’t’ be. Are you interested in discovering this life in you? Wouldn’t you rather choose your career from this place, rather than endless surface information, or a panic to work it out?
The difference between my approach and traditional career coaching is that Essence™️ will help you explore more deeply, and allow you to let go of the need to know how to get there. Essence™️ provides a means by which you can safely explore your underlying motivations, beliefs or feelings and release what no longer serves you (if you choose).
Contact me on 01453 705 103 for free 15 minute consultation and find out how I can support you with pursuing a career which is in alignment with your true values.
It may feel compelling to set New Year’s Resolutions, but studies show that most people don’t stick to them for very long. After an initial surge in motivation- boosted by the buzz of ‘resolution season’ – many find that their commitment wanes after the first 30 days. Why is this?
A lot of New Year’s resolutions get set from a place of frustration or negativity. “Oh it’s about time I gave up smoking”. “I’m sick of…” We may react against what we don’t want, but then discover this is not enough to help us move towards what we do want. This is an important lesson in goal achievement. If we put too much emphasis on what we don’t want, we simply create more of the same.
However, this doesn’t mean we should ignore negative feelings or fears. To do so would be unkind to ourselves. Nevertheless, we also have to create space for the new.
If you feel moved to change your life this year, make sure that you give quality attention to what it is you choose. If you want to give something up, make sure your focus is on the thing you will have more than the thing you won’t.
Take a moment now to consider who you are as the person who makes this change for their life. How does this choice benefit you? How do you feel as someone who lives this choice? What do you do as someone who lives this choice? What supports you to choose this today, tomorrow, and the next day?
The good news is you do not need to know everything about your goal outcome before you take action towards it. You will grow during the process of change, and as you do, each step will become clearer. And you can come back to this enquiry as often as you like…
To your success!
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You may have come across a quote, often credited to Einstein, that says “insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results”. Whatever its origin, this quote contains a kernel of truth worth remembering. I would rephrase it like this- “It is not wise to do the same thing over and over if it doesn’t produce the results you need and then to expect different results”. I often see people stuck in this place, and have been there myself, trying to ‘work out’ a situation, getting nowhere, going around and round with the same questions and concerns in their heads. It’s very common. There’s nothing ‘wrong’ with being in that place, and yet…if you demand a solution to come like this, you block one coming another way. Beyond thought.
The Essence™️ approach I use at Firefly Coaching supports you to become present with what is. The ‘answer’ for your life situation may involve more than attaining facts or knowledge. It may involve a letting go of something which doesn’t serve you; an attitude, a belief, a memory. It may involve a big shift in your life. If you are considering changing career, or making other significant life changes, you deserve to receive facilitation in this process which will serve your potential, to also discover what is beyond facts or knowledge.
Your ‘answer’ may involve deep personal enquiry, a willingness to be open to what you don’t already know, a willingness to accept that you don’t know everything that you wish. This may feel frightening to do on your own. When I work with you, I understand that transformation can be challenging. I have undertaken profound ongoing personal development with Secret Garden, founder of Essence™️, for over six years, and continue to do so.
Your ‘answer’ might require a short journey. Or perhaps your ‘answer’ leads you to a whole new journey in life. Be open to possibility- you never know where it may lead.
I’ve been getting lots of interest and enquiries about Essence™️ so I thought I would answer some of your questions here- specifically, what IS Essence™️ Coaching, and how can it benefit you?
Essence™️ Coaching is an elegant approach, particularly as it benefits adults from any background without prior knowledge or understanding. It was founded by Joy Hicklin-Bailey (Secret Garden) after 30 years as a successful Coach, Psychotherapist and Teacher. It is well tried and tested!
It includes everything that quality coaching has- including goal setting and accountability – yet its core is much more profound than these. Essence™️ is unique as it also allows you to safely explore and clear underlying beliefs, patterns, feelings or behaviours that keep you stuck. As an Essence™️ Coach I can guide you through a deceptively simple process to let go of what is holding you back (if you choose) and find your own answers or resolutions. These solutions may seem to come from ‘nowhere’ or it may feel as if you have rediscovered something hidden you had known all along. However it is for you, you will feel clearer, lighter and ready to achieve your goals.
The great news is that there is no need to ‘work it out’ for Essence™️ to be effective. In fact, if you are someone who frequently ‘gets stuck’ trying to figure things out (like I was), this could be the ideal approach for you.
Essence™️ is powerful as it naturally dissolves feelings of unease. My own personal experience over the last 7 years has been that it enhances and maintains positive wellbeing. Feedback from clients has also showed that it can be very beneficial for people experiencing anxiety or depression. One of the many reasons for this is that Essence™️ allows you to be just as you are, even as you choose to change, rather than making you ‘wrong’. Through the gentle processes that I use, you can discover self-acceptance and compassion safely within yourself.
There is so much more I could say about this!
Keep the questions coming and I will add further updates here.
To your success!
Disclaimer: Essence™️ is a highly successful approach for self-improvement in mental, emotional and physical balance. Essence™️ approaches and materials are not intended to replace treatments for medical or psychological conditions by licensed medical practitioners, psychologists or other health care professionals.
Are you thinking about returning to work, but aren’t sure which direction to take? ?
Have you been researching career coaching, but feel overwhelmed by your options?
As an experienced Career Coach, I understand how tentative you may feel about making those first steps towards changing your life. You want to be sure of your decisions, but the problem is, you’re confused right now. ?♀️
If this is you, it’s vital that you select an experienced coach who will listen to what you need and also see your potential – even if you might not see it yourself yet. Maybe you’re lacking confidence, and you don’t want to reach out to recruiters until you know what you want? Perhaps you’re not in a rush to make decisions, although you’re aware that you need to have a plan for the future?
Whatever your situation, coaching can reap enormous benefits for your whole life. I’ve spent 14 years delivering professional coaching and advice for jobseekers and career changers like you, with accreditations by the Employment Related Services Association and Advice and Guidance Centre. I also trained directly with founder Joy Hicklin-Bailey as one of only 3 coaches in the UK currently licensed to practice Essence™️ transformational techniques.
With Essence™️ in my toolbox , I can offer you support that is so much more than practical advice and guidance. As well as job searching, interview preparation and CV writing, I can help you identify what you want and why you want it – and help you let go of what is holding you back. You can then move forwards with clarity, confidence and positivity.
I offer a range of coaching options, including 3 or 6 month packages with weekly activities selected for your unique needs. Contact me on 01453 705 103 to find out more.